Is self confidence attained or are people born with it? Well, according to Napoleon Hill, you can pretty much build it up with 5 steps through an arrangement of positive thoughts.
Here are the steps as the book "Think and Grow Rich" details:
1 - "I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my definite purpose in life; therefore, I demand of myself persistent, continuous action towards its attainment, and I here and now promise to render such action."
2 - "I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outwards, physical action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality; therefore, I will concentrate my thoughts for thirty minutes daily, upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, thereby creating in my mind a clear mental picture."
3 - "I know through the principle of autosuggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of attaining the object back of it; therefore, I will devote ten minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of self confidence."
4 - "I have clearly written down a description of my definite chief aim in life, and I will never stop trying, until I shall have developed sufficient self confidence for its attainment."
5 - "I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure, unless built upon truth and justice; therefore, I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people. I will induce others to serve me, because of my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism, by developing love for all humanity, because I know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. I will cause others to believe in me because I will believe in them, and in myself. I will sign my name to this formula, commit it to memory, and repeat it aloud once a day, with full faith that it will gradually influence my thoughts and actions so that I will become a self-reliant, and successful person."
I hope this can help you build some confidence so you can accomplish slay your goals.
Enjoy the sweet side life.